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This photo was taken by our daughter, Sarah Timmons, or my wife, depending on who you ask. We were in Rehoboth Beach, DE on Easter Sunday, 2011.


Several years ago, on the way home from a family vacation, I picked up a notebook and quickly recorded an incident that had occurred involving our son. Eventually, I used that story to illustrate something about my spiritual walk as a believer in Christ. Thus began a deliberate attempt to document the significance of everyday events. Almost any ordinary circumstance in daily life can become fodder for another story. This, almost by definition, lends itself to a blog.

Of course, many of the entries here are just ordinary diary style stuff... the stuff of ordinary blogs. Good grief, I don't want to be ordinary.


Wednesday, January 25, 2012

"We Just Disagree" by Dave Mason

In my first year of college, a sociology class taught by Henry Nyce created a lot of stir. He had this thing he did for fun where he asked students to bring a favorite song to class. After listening to it, he would tell the student things about themselves based on that song. When I took the class, we unfortunately we never got a chance to do it. However, a friend of mine took the class the year before. She choose this song. I am sorry to say I don't recall what Mr. Nyce had to say, but she wasn't impressed.

Obviously, Mason is talking about a break-up here. But I think he was on to something broader. Too often when we disagree in general, we often feel the need to keep bringing up why our position is correct. There must be a good guy and a bad guy.

The older I get, the more I tend to find that fighting to make my point just isn't worth it. So lets just leave it alone.

Dave Mason
We Just Disagree





Been away, haven't seen you in a while
How've you been, have you changed your style?
And do you think that we've grown up differently?
Don't seem the same, seems you've lost your feel for me

So let's leave it alone 'cause we can't see eye to eye
There ain't no good guy, there ain't no bad guy
There's only you and me and we just disagree
Ooh ooh ooh, oh oh oh

I'm goin' back to a place that's far away, how 'bout you?
Have you got a place to stay?
Why should I care when I'm just trying to get along
We were friends but now it's the end of our love song

So let's leave it alone 'cause we can't see eye to eye
There ain't no good guy, there ain't no bad guy
There's only you and me and we just disagree
Ooh ooh ooh, oh oh oh

So let's leave it alone 'cause we can't see eye to eye
There ain't no good guy, there ain't no bad guy
There's only you and me and we just disagree

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Trial by Dishwasher


(Note:  This is a long post, and you may be attempted to abandon it mid-way.  But it contains a principle that is perhaps one of the most dear to my heart.)

It came highly recommended by a leading consumer guide.  But towards the end of year four, disaster struck.  My wife noticed water seeping out onto the floor, dripping from the main motor that pumps the water over our dirty dishes.  My first comment to Tina was “I doubt this can be fixed”.

Enter my personality.  Not one to miss an opportunity to take something apart, I removed the two dish racks, loosened the screws that hold the machine in place,  disconnected the drain hose under the sink, and drug the dishwasher out from under the counter.  The fit was tight, requiring some finagling to get it free.  Once out, the dishwasher could be laid on its face, exposing its bottom.  Fortunately, it was not a modest dishwasher.  Once I had the pump out, the problem became obvious.  There was a seal that had disintegrated, allowing water to breach the barrier between the motor and adjoining pump, resulting in the drip. 

This would require the ordering of parts, so the dishwasher was replaced under the counter.  Once I got online with my trusty appliance parts store, a debate began about how many parts to actually replace.  It wasn’t apparent that the motor had been damaged, so I chose the economical/frugal/cheap route, and ordered just the seal.

With parts in hand a few days later, the repair process started with the laborious process of removing the dishwasher from under the counter.  Now seemed like a good time to install a drip pan (after the fact is better than not at all I suppose).  The pan fit perfectly, although it took even more finagling to get the dishwasher with its new seal back in its place.

The electric was turned back on, the start button was pushed, the machine filled with water, and then… nothing…just the faint distinctive smell of something electrical burning.  I expressed a little frustration, and Tina said we could just call the repair man…as I had done the best I could.  I informed her that I would sooner chunk the dishwasher out in the yard at this point.  I was not angry.  It was just a statement of fact, as it would likely be cheaper just to buy a new one than go that route.  Besides, it would mean defeat.

Later in the day, I decided to investigate the problem. The dishwasher was freed again from its home, with the same tediousness that was now very familiar.  I discovered that water had made its way into a bearing and was binding the motor up.  A liberal amount of oil was applied, and the machine was re-assembled, again.  I pushed the start button.  It filled with water and the motor started, but now with a highly irritating grinding that sounded like it would self-destruct at any moment.  I decided, wisely, to sleep on the problem, and attack in the morning with renewed passion.

Waking early on Saturday morning, I was prepared to have this task finished by breakfast.  The dishwasher was hauled out from under the counter, a little less gently.  Before ordering a new motor, it had to be confirmed that it was indeed the culprit, and not some other issue.  I hot-wired the motor, and it made its awful racket sitting in our kitchen floor. 

It appeared that the motor would function without causing any harm for the next few days until the new one arrived, so I put it back in and shoved the machine under the counter.  Breakfast was about ready, and I wanted to run a load of dishes right away (it so happened that Tina was fighting pneumonia at the time, and the kids and I had been doing all the dishes by hand).  It was after completing the last re-installation step that I noticed, sitting among my tools, the pump assembly, which I had inadvertently left off. 

Not wanting breakfast to get cold, we sat down to eat.  I called my criminal attorney uncle in Louisville.  “I know you are connected,” I said…. “I need some C-4 to put in my dishwasher.”  For the rest of the day Elias and Asher asked if we were really going to blow up our dishwasher, and were greatly concerned about the mess it would leave in the yard.  
 
Unable to attain the C-4, the dishwasher did in fact remain in the house.  The new motor was installed when it arrived later in the week, and it works perfectly at the moment. 

Despite the few quips about the potential fate of the machine, I believe my wife would confirm that I demonstrated an extraordinary amount of patience throughout the long and annoying dishwasher debacle.  But I was not striving to be patient.  The fact is, there was a different emotion that dominated my being during this whole incident.  That passion was an insatiable desire to successfully repair our ailing dishwasher.  We aren’t talking about some great spiritual breakthrough here; we are talking about my flesh and personality on the level of earth.  Problem solving such as this has been a life-long compulsion for me.

It would appear that the patience was a by-product of that drive to solve a problem.  If I had attempted to pursue patience itself, I seriously doubt the dishwasher would have survived.

While it doesn’t translate exactly, there is a comparable principle involving the Christian life.  It operates in a similar fashion to my so-called patience.  If we pursue any kind of virtue as a thing in itself to be acquired, we will surely fail.  The key is not to become more determined to be virtuous, but to direct our passion in another direction.  The key is to pursue The One Who is virtuous throughout His being.  This One is Jesus Christ.  Out of that pursuit, change will come as a fruit, a by-product.

A friend of mine recently pointed out this principle in Abraham, who was called a “Friend of God”.  That friendship produced a man who became known as the “Father of Faith”, a man who had grown to a place in his faith where he was willing to sacrifice his own child, believing that his God would resurrect and fulfill His promises through Isaac.  Now that is extraordinary faith.  Yet I doubt Abraham set out to have that kind of faith, but simply to walk in the light he had from The God he loved, The God who was his friend.  Ultimately, the fruit of that walk, that friendship, was great faith.  That faith was proven to be extraordinary on Mount Moriah with his son Isaac.

It is critical we get the order correct.  We hunger and thirst for relationship with Christ first.  And then, as our lives are united with His, the result is new life, new fruit, just as the union between a blossom and pollen produce fruit.  To reverse the order and pursue the fruit first is simply a work of our flesh, and will surely fail.  On the other hand, fruit that happens in the midst of a life with the God you love... now that’s a different story.

First appeared in the March, 2010 edition of the Manna. http://readthemanna.org

Thursday, January 19, 2012

The Adventures of HandyMan, Chapter 4

Chapter 4
The Psychoanalysis of HandyMan

In the interest of Illumin-Girl's superhero education, HandyMan shared this information:

"I think the desire to create humor and the pleasure I receive from that is a gift God gave me to deal with the blues.  Actually being humorous is not required.  It is the effort which is important."

"Does that mean I helped you realize that with my superpowers, or did you do that on your own?"

"Out of courtesy, we will say you helped."

"Gee, thanks.  I think as a superhero you want to be the only one in the spotlight." 

This, of course, was a misrepresentation of HandyMan, although he did have a secret craving to be in the spotlight on occasion, which he constantly had to suppress.  He continued on with Illumin-Girl's education.  "In the second grade my parents took me to a counselor, suspicious I was suffering from depression as a result of a broken arm.  The counselor said they should get me a dog."

Dead silence from Illumin-Girl.  She was apparently busy processing this new information through her medically oriented mind.  HandyMan pressed on in his straight-to-the-point style. "That was not a joke.  Illumin-Girl has to learn to be able to handle the truth."

"I'm assuming some idiot with a degree suggested a dog would actually fix depression... hope they didn't have to pay him much."

"Actually, he said I wasn't depressed, but just needed cheering up.  We did get a dog, a yappy Chiguagua, which, ironically,  put us all on edge and nearly drove the whole family crazy.  But I was allergic to it, so we traded it in for a Schwinn banana seat bike, and I was fixed."

There were details of the counselor story which HandyMan spared from Illumin-Girl.  While he had gone into the counseling session with a simple case of bad cheer, he had been given a Rorschach test, and almost fell into depression due to his lack of ability to precisely identify the exact thing which each ink blot was meant to represent.  HandyMan was very precise, even at the young age of eight.

But that is more than enough sharing about HandyMan's personal life.  All that is in the past now, but is a brief explanation of one of the many reasons for his bizarre behavior.

Monday, January 16, 2012

Katherine's Magnet


We bought this magnet from a fundraiser catalog when Katherine was little.  She spent hours and hours in front of our refrigerator, playing with our various magnets.  This, however, was her favorite.  She would take it off, take the animals out (the pig, cow, and chick are removable), and carry them around, often misplacing the chick.  At one point the rooster broke off the top, and I re-attached it with a sewing needle and some glue.

When I look at it, I see baby Katherine standing in our kitchen.  She is now sixteen.  The magnet will always have a home on our refrigerator. It's a good reason to avoid stainless steel .


Sunday, January 15, 2012

The Adventures of HandyMan, Chapter 3

 Chapter 3
Sidekick Gets a Name

It was just an ordinary day for HandyMan.  He stood on a frosty roof at 7:45 in the morning, the temperature a cool 28 degrees - as cold as - well, it was very cold.  He wondered about the likelihood of sliding off the roof and impaling himself on the cast iron fence below. 

As though this was not enough on his plate, he was summoned by Yet to be Named Sidekick.

"I want my name to have something to do with truth... it's not always pretty but I call it like I see it... in myself and in others."

In a moment of weakness he said "I am too stinking cold to do superpower work right now."

"Illumin-girl would tell you to ignore me under the circumstances."

"Illumin-girl, huh? It has a nice humble tone.... Why not "God's Gift to Man Girl"?

"Mmmmm. That has a nice ring to it.  So, when do we begin fighting?...uh... what are we fighting?  Evil, status quo, injustice?"

"All of the above.  We started yesterday.  You weren't paying attention."

"How did I miss it?  I thought you were changing and would get back to me"  Illumin-girl was referring to a superhero situation she had raised the previous day.  HandyMan had told her he would need to change into his superhero suit, and would get back to her later with a solution.  He informed her that this could take some time, given the difficulty of the problem.  But Illumin-girl failed to notice that Handyman cleverly addressed the question by the end of the day, and we pick up the conversation there...

"HandyMan worked it all out without you even being aware of it.  Case resolved, although you didn't even sense an immediate improvement in the situation.  That's the beauty of it."

In fact, that was the beauty of HandyMan's work.  His solutions were usually methodical, and thus slow in coming.  (In this case, the "changing into my suit" excuse was just a ruse.) The solutions crept up on the situation, and then pounced on them like a lion. Yet, paradoxically, in the face of the overwhelming brilliance of it all, it often took some time for the solution to dawn on the recipient.  To their eyes, it may not look like a solution at all.

It was at this point that HandyMan realized that Illumin-girl may need more superhero sidekick training than he had realized.  But at least she had a name now.


Saturday, January 7, 2012

The Adventures of HandyMan, Chapters 1 & 2


The following script will appear uninteresting to a large majority of the human race.  If you find yourself to be one of those people, just skip the reading of it, and any future postings titled "The Adventures of HandyMan", as you will never be able to recover the few minutes of your life you wasted.  Of course, you won't know that until you start, so you will have to take your chances.

If you DO chose to read it, then it will help to know that it is a conversation, with every line changing speakers, for the most part.  The narrator occasionally speaks to add critical information.


Chapter 1 
The Birth of a Superhero

It started, innocently enough, with some information from my customer/friend telling me that a painter would be at her house working during the next week (This is a house which formerly belonged to her parents).  She was informing me in case I wanted to stop by and check the progress while I was in the area.

ME:  “Have I been promoted to head handyman/overseer of your mom’s house?  I am really moving up in the world.”

“Well, you have always been number one with me in those ranks, far exceeding any others.”

“I just wish I had a cool, unforgettable name, like “Mr. Tweedle.””  (Mr. Tweedle is the actual name of an older and very competent man who did work at the house.)

“How about BATMAN? (my initials are B.A.T.) That’s COOL.  That new truck of yours should have been black.”

“You may be on to something.  I sort of have a Batman – save the world and correct injustice - mentality, cleverly hidden in the persona of a handyman.  He also has a dark side, and tends to carry the weight of the world on his shoulders.  You are brilliant.”

Then a realization struck.  “Oh my goodness.  I’m a superhero, and didn’t know it.”


Chapter 2
Superhero Gets a New Name, and The Birth of a Sidekick

I felt the need to share this new information with another friend, who I knew would appreciate hearing about my new realization.  “I just had an epiphany.  With my initials, my dark side, my tendency to carry the world on my shoulders and fight injustice… I’m a superhero, and didn’t know it.  AND I sort of look like Christian Bale.”

“I can't say I see the resemblance.”  This comment was missing the point.

“I don’t care about superficial stuff like looks.  What about my superhero qualities?”

“Well, I haven’t seen you fly but I know you can make a mean ice cream pie.”

“You are not encouraging AT ALL.  You are not on your game today.  I want to hear how I can indeed save the world.”

“I have no doubt you can save the world and look like Christian Bale while you are doing it.  How’s that?”

“Fine, except I had to drag it out of you.  You know the saying “With great power comes great responsibility?”  I’m going to need some help in the responsibility department.  Are you up to it?”

“Can I have a cape and mask too?”

“You are really hung up on appearances.  You may need some remedial training before coming onto the superhero team.”

“Where’s the attitude of a superhero without a cape and mask?”

“You’re HOPELESS.  Superhero work is about the heart and inward attitude.  Do I have to splain EVERYTHING?”

“Guess that’s why I am still only a sidekick.”

“You will learn, grasshopper.”

“Maybe.”

“This is why it is so detrimental for our families to gather so infrequently, not just to us, but to the world."

After some pondering on my part...  "I think I need a fresh name as a superhero.  Batman has been taken.  I'm thinking "HandyMan"".   Has a nice ring, doesn't it? “

“I thought you hated being called a handyman.”

“This is a different context altogether.  I may like it now since it denotes
my superhero status.”



And thus was born HandyMan and his yet to be named sidekick, dark fighters of injustice with attitudes, hidden in the unassuming personas of an ordinary jack of all trades and an occupational therapist.  The adventure begins.

Addendum
The History of Handymen
(Which is not to imply that I am one.)

Yet to be named Sidekick did in fact state the truth in the comment "I thought you hated being called a handyman".  The reasons for this are common knowledge to most people.  This quote is taken directly from Wikipedia"Generally the job of paid handyman is low status, a semi-skilled labor job. It's a less prestigious occupation than a specialist such as a plumber, electrician, or carpenter. "

However, in the same paragraph from which the above quote was taken, Wikipedia also states "Handyman tools sometimes become useful in different places: for example, when a proper neurological drill was not available, an Australian doctor used a handyman's drill in 2009 to open a hole in the head of a 13-year old boy to relieve pressure after a brain injury; the boy's life was saved."  This is proof that handymen are more important than commonly thought, and that I was not, in fact, the first handyman superhero.

Friday, January 6, 2012

Wreck of The Edmund Fitzgerald

There is something about sad songs that have always intrigued me.  For some reason I am drawn to them.  Perhaps it is my melancholic personality.  This is the first of many posts highlighting such music. It follows the second post, which was posted first, due to a complicated series of events which even I do not fully comprehend.

You can find lists of sad songs on the internet.  I'm not really interested in which songs other people consider sad.  The songs I choose will have had some particular impact on my life.  I will NOT be talking about "Honey", by Bobby Goldsboro, "Shannon" by Henry Gross, or "If" by Bread, so as to keep some hint of respect among the men.  Some songs are so sappy they make you want to puke.  Such songs shall be avoided.  O.K... maybe I will do Shannon.  Good grief, I'm going to cry.


Gordon Lightfoot released this song in 1976, commemorating the sinking of the SS Edmund Fitzgerald on Lake Superior on November 10, 1975.  None of the crew of 29 survived.

I'm a sucker for a song that tells a great story.  Makes you think about how many things have to line up to have a song like this work so well... the story, the music, the tone, the voice, the timing..... In Lightfoot's case, it only happened a few times in his whole career. 



The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald
by Gordon Lightfoot
(click on link to listen)

The legend lives on from the Chippewa on down
Of the big lake they called Gitchigumi
The lake, it is said, never gives up her dead
When the skies of November turn gloomy.

With a load of iron ore twenty-six thousand tons more
Than the Edmund Fitzgerald weighed empty.
That good ship and crew was a bone to be chewed
When the "Gales of November" came early.

The ship was the pride of the American side
Coming back from some mill in Wisconsin
As the big freighters go, it was bigger than most
With a crew and good captain well seasoned.

Concluding some terms with a couple of steel firms
When they left fully loaded for Cleveland
And later that night when the ship's bell rang
Could it be the north wind they'd been feeling?

The wind in the wires made a tattle-tale sound
And a wave tumbled over the railing
And every man knew, as the captain did too,
T'was the witch of November come stealing.

The dawn came late and the breakfast had to wait
When the gales of November came slashin'
When afternoon came it was freezing rain
In the face of a hurricane west wind.
  When suppertime came, the old cook came on deck saying
"Fellas, it's too rough to feed ya."
At seven PM the main hatchway caved in, he said
"Fellas, it's been good to know ya."

The captain wired in he had water coming in
And the good ship and crew was in peril.
And later that night when his lights went out of sight
Came the wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald.

Does any one know where the love of God goes
When the waves turn the minutes to hours?
The searchers all say they'd have made Whitefish Bay
If they'd put fifteen more miles behind her.

They might have split up or they might have capsized;
They may have broke deep and took water.
All that remains are the faces and the names
Of the wives and the sons and the daughters.

Lake Huron rolls, Superior sings
In the rooms of her icewater mansion.
Old Michigan steams like a young man's dreams;
The isles and bays are for sportsmen.

And farther below Lake Ontario
Takes in what Lake Erie can send her,
And the iron boats go as the mariners all know
With the gales of November remembered.

In a musty old hall in Detroit they prayed,
In the "Maritime Sailors' Cathedral."
The church bell chimed till it rang twenty-nine times
For each man on the Edmund Fitzgerald.

The legend lives on from the Chippewa on down
Of the big lake they call Gitchigumi
Superior, they say, never gives up her dead
When the gales of November come early.
 

Thursday, January 5, 2012

The Band

Robbie Robertson  wrote "The Night They Drove Old Dixie Down", and The Band recorded it in 1969, with Levon Helm singing lead.  The song tells about the days towards the end of the Civil War.  Robertson, interestingly, is Canadian.

The Band, 1968. L-r: Rick Danko, Levon Helm, Richard Manuel, Garth Hudson and Robbie Robertson in the Catskills posing for Music From Big Pink. Photo © Elliott Landy.

Part way through the song (at 1:07 in the video), there is an eerie harmonica being played, just as the lyrics "Virgil, quick, come see, There goes Robert E. Lee!" are being sung.  I had always assumed that "Robert E. Lee" was the name of a train because the harmonica so closely resembles a train passing, and due to the reference to a train in the second line of the song.  Excellent use of the harmonica, I had always thought.

I pointed this out to our girls during one of our music education classes (they get a great education from me in this department).  They agreed with my powers of observation.  Then, out of curiosity, I did some research into the song.  Turns out, "Robert E. Lee" does not refer to a train.  Most likely, it was originally written to refer to General Robert E. Lee.  However, Robertson apparently got the timing of the events out of order, making the passing by of Lee impossible at this point in the song.  Others, recognizing this flaw, changed the lyric to "There goes The Robert E. Lee!"  This refers to a steamboat by that name.

The harmonica sounds nothing like a steamboat whistle.  So I am going to ignore the facts, and go on believing that "There goes Robert E. Lee" actually refers to an imaginary train by that name.  Never let the facts get in the way of a great story.

The Night They Drove Old Dixie Down
by The Band

Virgil Kane is the name
And I served on the Danville train
'Till Stoneman's cavalry came
And tore up the tracks again

In the winter of '65
We were hungry, just barely alive
By May the 10th, Richmond had fell
It's a time I remember, oh so well

The night they drove old Dixie down
And the bells were ringing
The night they drove old Dixie down
And the people were singing
They went, "Na, na, la, na, na, la"

Back with my wife in Tennessee
When one day she called to me
"Virgil, quick, come see,
There goes Robert E. Lee!"

Now, I don't mind chopping wood
And I don't care if the money's no good
You take what you need
And you leave the rest
But they should never
Have taken the very best

The night they drove old Dixie down
And the bells were ringing
The night they drove old Dixie down
And all the people were singing
They went, "Na, na, la, na, na, la"

Like my father before me
I will work the land
And like my brother above me
Who took a rebel stand

He was just 18, proud and brave
But a Yankee laid him in his grave
I swear by the mud below my feet
You can't raise a Kane back up
When he's in defeat

The night they drove old Dixie down
And the bells were ringing
The night they drove old Dixie down
And all the people were singing
They went, "Na, na, la, na, na, la"

The night they drove old Dixie down
And all the bells were ringing
The night they drove old Dixie down
And the people were singing
They went, "Na, na, la, na, na, la"

Note:  This is the second entry in a group of posts under the topic "Sad Songs".  The first post under that topic is, sadly enough, stuck in editing, and will come later.


Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Snow Happens


Tina took the decorations off the tree today.  I noticed this one, and was disappointed to learn that it belonged to our Sarah, and not me, so it will be leaving our home one day.  I get a lot of pleasure out of little things in life, like an ornament with a clever reference to a naughty phrase.  Coal for me next year.

Birthday Card

Happy Birthday, Butt-head.
Received this card in the mail today.  It came from a family member - a person who loves and respects me.

It's hard to feel respected under these circumstances.



Hope you caught that.... under these circumstances.


Monday, January 2, 2012

My First Senior Coffee


My favorite mug, by Brooke Gehman
It must have been the distance between the drive-through speaker and the young employee in the restaurant that caused the mistake. After placing my order, it came up on the “Check your order for accuracy” screen.  It was then that the horrible realization of what had happened was staring me in the face.  As I read the words, I realized I had just purchased my first senior coffee for 50 cents.

My first thought was “How old do you have to be to get a senior coffee anyway?”  Then the moral dilemma began to set in.  Do I inform the young attendant that I am pretty sure I don’t qualify as a “senior” under anyone’s definition, or do I let it ride and save the 50 cents?

While I am normally the first one to return incorrect change, this particular moral dilemma did not seem all that critical to solve, so I abandoned that thought, as a more serious issue was at hand.  How had I been labeled a senior?  Was it the poor line of vision between the attendant and the location of the speaker in the drive-through line?  Perhaps a poor quality video system was the culprit. 

As I pulled up to the window, I realized there were two young employees working the drive through.  The one who took the order was not the same one who handed it to me.  She too was young, and was giving me a look that seemed to be saying “How did you manage to get a senior coffee.”  Or perhaps the look meant “Now I know you’re not a senior… what are you trying to do, rip us off?”  Or maybe the reality of the situation had occurred to her and she was thinking “Oops, we made a mistake...We have surely insulted you, and now neither of us knows how to remedy the situation.”

I took my coffee, trying to look senior-ish, which was challenging, since this was my first time.  As I pulled away, I wondered what lesson could possibly be gleaned from this maiden voyage into Senior Citizenship.  Even now, months later, I can find no redeeming value, spiritual or otherwise, in being called old before one’s time.  

Note:  I wrote this story 3 years ago.  The fact I have not been offered a senior coffee since then has provided a small amount of satisfaction.