From a young age, I understood that my grandfather, Elias Tingle, read profusely. Part of his daily reading included several daily newspapers in order to keep up with the times. While he was with us, I never quite understood his drive to consume the daily news.
At some point in my life, much later than when he did, I too began my day with a daily consumption of news.
My media is certainly different from his, of course. I just read a statistic about how much information we now consume at the beginning of our day, compared to someone like my grandfather. It’s astounding.
One of my regrets in life is that while Elias was living, our conversations were limited. I was too young, too distracted, and that drive to understand the world had not yet set in. The means to understand him… long conversations about life… never happened. I probably learned more about him from his son, my Uncle Bud, and the long conversations that I did have with him. Those conversations were through the eyes of Bud, and were slightly tainted due to that, but I would guess his analysis of his father were mostly accurate.
I did in fact witness many adult conversations between Elias, my uncle, and my mother, when Uncle Bud would visit - the kind which involved such heavy issues as the state of the world. The most serious ones, however, were probably reserved for after my family had departed, since the presence of young ears would have moderated those adult conversations.
I bring this up because I have long recognized the similarity between my grandfather and me. That similarity involves the way our minds work, the way we absorb and ponder on information, and the effect is has on our demeanor.
The similarity increases the older I get. One way I see it clearly in the past year is my ability to transition from gregarious (a term I would never have used in my younger years to describe myself) to quiet and contemplative in a matter of moments. I used to view my grandfather as mostly gregarious. Over the years, after contemplating his life, I see more accurately that he was in fact more like I just described myself.
Coincidentally, I am now at the age he was when I first began to understand who he was, and what was important to him.
All which leads to this… in his quiet moments alone and out of his gregarious mode, I picture him pondering on the state of the world, and feeling a great weight on his shoulders, just as I do. I picture him wondering what his role was, and what he could do, if anything.
In 1976 Elias ran in a Delaware State Senate race and was handily defeated 4,556 to 7,552. It was a great disappointment to him, and a blow to his ego.
That effort to make an impact in the political arena was his last. After a long history of community engagement in various organizations, his voice became more quiet.
I now wonder about why that was the case less than I used to. I now understand a little better what drove him to that quiet place.